The Loss of my Beloved Social Worker

 November 26, 2021, was the exact date that I was devastated by the passing of my beloved social worker, Ma'am Riza. With that sad news, I have been mourning the loss of a role model, friend, and mother to me in the community program she handled. I was in deep grief for a week. It pains me a lot knowing that she will never be on my side, that I will not see her again, and that no one will guide me on what path to take in the future. In the past 4 years of the attachment that I had with her, I have had so many realizations, lessons, and knowledge in life that could help me shortly. She lived a good, happy life, being committed and passionate about community service. She had had a great impact on the Cebu City community and the children of Asia, especially the children's and their families lives. It was for this reason that I was in deep grief when she died.    

 I have a hard time dealing with or coping with the grief and loss that affects my physical health, making it difficult for me to sleep, eat, or even think straight. Coping with the loss of someone you loved is one of life's biggest challenges. Inevitably, the grieving process takes time. Healing happens gradually; it can't be forced or hurried, and there is no "normal" timetable for grieving. Some people start to feel better in weeks or months. For some, the grieving process is measured in years. In 1969, psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced what has become known as the "five stages of grief." These are the denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance that I was experiencing. 

 Luckily, I was able to deal with the grief and loss of my beloved social worker through acceptance. Accepting the fact that our loved one is no longer physically there and realizing that this is the new normal, we will never like or accept this truth, but we will ultimately accept it. We learn to accept it and live with it. We must now strive to exist in a world without our loved ones. We often feel as if we are betraying our loved ones as we begin to live again and enjoy our lives. We will never be able to replace what has been lost, but we can form new bonds and meaningful relationships. Rather than ignoring our feelings, we pay attention to them; we move, develop, grow, and evolve. We may begin to reach out and become involved in the lives of others. We put effort into our connections and our self-relationships. We can start living again, but we cannot do so until we have given grief its time.

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